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Tips on how to forgive

I was bullied within the club sport I did for 5 years straight. It’s been about a year now since I’ve quit and have tried to move on. I can’t find peace and I don’t know how to forgive these people who caused me pain. I still see these people in public, and I have panicked responses. I know healing can take a while, but a few tips on how to move on would be nice.
Your right, healing does take a while so don't worry, you will get there. You will never forget the bullying that happened but with time the pain and anxiety will lessen and you are well prepared to spot the signs of bullying behaviour in the future. My best advice would be to surround yourself with people who actually care about you and want the best for you in life. Anyone who does not is not worth engaging with. Stay strong, and well done for getting yourself out of a very badly run club. Time to move on. xx
Forgive, yes. It's the only way to stop becoming resentful, so you can let go of anger.

But never forget, so you can be on guard and also know what to do and how to handle if it happens again.

Jules92 is spot-on. Surround yourself with people who actually care about you and let everyone else go.
Hi Milo,

I went through bullying and one thing I remember looking back now was how much I beat myself up for being 'weak'. I've since learned it takes a different kind of strength to endure something that you can't control or always avoid and come out of it wiser, not weaker. Take away some of the self recriminations and look at yourself as someone who has saved or rescued you from a bad situation. I think you'll find you are the hero in this story. Well done!