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Annie
Hi there,

I’m in my 30s and getting cyber bullied for couple of years. It first started when I was a blogger , I deleted profile . After I started my business and now they attacking my business people with who I work and ppl who I know. They keep sending anonymous messages to everyone in Instagram non stop. It’s hurts so bad, I feel like they want me to die. My business brings me good money, but I see a lots of ppl doesn’t want to talk to me anymore. I’m crying every single day and drinking alcohol.
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Adam
Have you tried using the blocking and filtering tools that Instagram has for keeping your feeds secure? Also, reporting any messages to the platform will help Instagram to action mob-bullying incidents, which this sees to be.
Secondly, don't take this personally, you are assuming that people are not talking to you anymore, when it is more likely they just don't want to be targeted by trolls. Try making your blogs and other online spaces safer by blocking any users who cause problems. You can find out more about using these tools at the cybersmile help center - www.cybersmile.org/advice-help/category/social-networks.
Also, you should talk to your doctor about how this is affecting you mentally. Drink and depression are a very potent combination that will not help you process this situation in a healthy way, so you need to address this as a priority. Even if it means coming off-line for a while to give yourself a break. You can also contact Cybersmile advisors at [email protected] if you want one to one advice about this.
Stay strong, you will get through this.
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Ihsan99
Hiya,
Omg can so relate to online bullying. I've had meme and stuff created about me by people who have serious issues. You have every right to run your business on a platform and feel safe doing so. These people obviously have issues and seem to be so bored and sad where they want to attack you... is there anyway you can report this to instagram or filter out messages to only recieve it from people with actual revealed names and are accountable with what they say. You don't deserve any of this harsh cruelty for simply running a business! Please don't stop and do what you love, hope this helps :)
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Ihsan99

In reply to Ihsan99

Drink isn't a long term way of coping but I can understand why you are. Visit your doctor or therapist to help cope. Reach out to family and friends :) :) :)
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Annie

In reply to Adam

Thank you Adam! Your message helped me a lot. I don’t know what exactly in anonymous messages because no one is showing them to me. But just anonymous profile send me message that someone is sending rumors about me and I need to be careful. I started reaching out my vendor friends and non of them responding to me non of them talking to me. It’s so scary( just month ago everything was fine. Ppl unfollowing me
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Adam
I wouldn't worry about anonymous messages about equally anonymous rumours. This sounds like a troll at work trying to get you chasing shadows, so stay strong and keep ignoring/blocking/reporting and deleting. Also, don't worry about people unfollowing you, you will recover, just keep putting positive content on your own socials and followers will come soon enough.
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Annie

In reply to Ihsan99

Thank you! Drinking do help me a lot to relax!
But I just found out that they had access to my Apple ID and social media. It’s not only one person it’s couple of them. And maybe even my brother who hacked my email.
It’s hurts so bad.
Why me? I didn’t do any evil staff to anyone.
I just want to escape...
Nothing is enjoyable right now.
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Adam
Drink may help you to relax but it is the worlds worst 'problem solver'!

You will feel much better when you have secured your socials and blocked all the trolls. Don't forget to use good passwords (don't tell anyone what they are) so you stay in control, and don't be afraid to block, delete and report anyone who causes you problems.
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Ihsan99
I really do understand and can so relate with using any form of dopamine as a way to escape. Have you reported this to the police or the social media moderating team?? The bullying that is taking place is only a symptom of their own inner evil traits and perhaps a unintentional lack of sufficient boundaries against these people; you have done nothing wrong and there is absolutely nothing wrong with you for wanting to be yourself online. Consider reaching out for professional help (I understand that's much harder now due to isolation measures). In these moments we want to isolate ourselves, it is the most needed time to connect! I feel your anger!
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Ihsan99
Be yourself on social media as that's good enough, other people are responsible for following their own gut or the nonsense other people feed them :)
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x_anxious.flower_x
I can understand that the cyberbullying is very hard for you at the moment Annie. Hearing your story makes me think about how people are never alone with being bullied although they might feel alone. This is why the Cybersmile community exists.

I have also been bullied on Instagram before but I deleted my account (and blocked the bullies before I deleted it.) I had horrible group chats made, my pictures edited in horrible ways, porn accounts added on to group chats, threats, name calling and I even had my phone number exposed which caused me to get a lot of cold calls (which I ignored, rejected and blocked.)

Eventually the online bullying stopped for a couple of months and
then moved on to another website. Now it just feels like a never ending nightmare. Especially as bullying is not just online. It can be verbal and physical which I go through.

Remember that you are never alone and there is always someone or something there for you (even if that something is alcohol.) Just remember to keep yourself safe. Yes I am a teenager and you are an adult. What is the difference? Age. That is all. Everyone has a voice and deserves to be heard.