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I'm really worried about bullying

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Surferchickita
Hi everyone,

OK so basically I've been having trouble with some girls at college... they're spreading rumours about me and telling the staff I plan on quitting college (total lie). So the stag have gone mad at me and called my mum who has also gone mad.

Now my medical conditions have got out of control so I'm am waiting for an ambulance. They're all going to find out about this and be really horrible about it... They always spread stuff around about my xonditions
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dolphintiger12
First of all wow! Just wow!
I'm so shocked about this I think you need to tell a official person like the police I can't help you anymore then that because I'm shocked I'm just horrified! They should be ashamed of themselves! I'm so sorry.
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GamerGirl
So sorry to hear about the bullying : (
I think the first thing is to get your medical conditions under control and then we can help you deal with these bullies! Get yourself well, we will all be here for you once you're feeling better. Remember the Cybersmile email for a support advisor [email protected] Look after yourself surfer x
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JoDragon
I'm sorry to hear this has happened to you :(

I kind of agree with dolphin about officials being involved but there would be little evidence that they were the cause of deterioration of your physical health.

I'm very surprised and upset that both your teachers and mum were assuming something over what other people said, and not gone by what you have said, after all it's your life and you know what you're doing and want!

I would have a talk with your mum when things have calmed down about the situation of these girls that are saying untrue things to get you into trouble and you really would like her support because in fact you don't want to leave college at all.

Communication is going to be key between you and both the staff and your mum. I appreciate it might not be easy but no is going to know you feel otherwise.

Don't forget you can email if you'd like some advice how to approach it.
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kitty
I know how you feel surfer people do the same with me and spread alot of rumors about me and so I get bullied even more then usual now
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Suzanne
You need to talk to your school and Mum separately once your health is better. Tell them both about these girls and how their rumour spreading has probably contributed to your illness/flare up. I hope you feel better soon and keep us posted! Thanks
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CybersmileTeam
Get well soon surfer and remember, you have all the support of the Cybersmile community and access to tons of support services through one email - [email protected] It's all you need!
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JadeT
Hello Surfer,

How are you feeling now? You mentioned waiting for an ambulance, is everything ok?
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Surferchickita
Thanks for all the great advice everyone, means a lot to know your all willing to help.I not too good at the moment thanks Jade, I'm actually in hospital, have been since I started this topic o.O I'm sure I'll be okay in the end, just not right now. Hope everyone else is doing okay though *hugs everyone*
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CybersmileTeam
Everyone at Cybersmile HQ sends big hugs Surfer x
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melia.pond
Hey surfer just wanted to send you some parsnips and hugs. You need lots of rest and like you said you will be okay in the end as I know your a tough cookie. Take care of yourself and remember people care about you, keep us posted on how you are doing x
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Suzanne
Get well soon surfer x
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Surferchickita
Awww guys, thanks so much. Thanks for the hugs cybersmile :) oooo parsnips, don't get many of those in here! Thanks meliaaaa. Ooh tough cookie *eats hand* oooo chocolate chip, yummy xD and thanks Suzanneeee my fave panda. Thanks again everyone x
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CybersmileTeam

In reply to Surferchickita

You're welcome Surfer, check out the positivity shrine we made you a get well soon meme! X
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kitty
Your welcome surf you always make me smile when I read your things they are sometimes funny *Hugs surfer*
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Surferchickita
Haha aw kitty, I'm glad I make you smile. Did you know I'm actually the smile monster, I run, or rather hop, around trying to make everyone smile (I'm a good monster) *sprinkles monster magic around Cybersmile* makes everyone smile! *hugs kitty tight*
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melia.pond
Originally posted by Surferchickita
Awww guys, thanks so much. Thanks for the hugs cybersmile :) oooo parsnips, don't get many of those in here! Thanks meliaaaa. Ooh tough cookie *eats hand* oooo chocolate chip, yummy xD and thanks Suzanneeee my fave panda. Thanks again everyone x


hahaha very true, you don't get many of them in here as they're very special are rare! ;) no need to thank me lovely just look after yourself! :) and er..... im sure there is a rule somewhere about not eating yourself? even if you are a tough cookie x
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kitty

In reply to Surferchickita

haha surfer your very funny every time I read a post that you do and if you say your hurt I worry about you because your like my sister
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GamerGirl
Most medical conditions thrive when you are under stress. I bet these girls don't realise that they are contributing to your illness. Unfortunately it's another example of the far reaching destruction of bullying : (
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CybersmileTeam

In reply to GamerGirl

Exactly GamerGirl, another argument for education being the answer to the problem. If life paused fir these girls and the saw the damage their behaviour was going to do would they still do it? It's less likely. The actual answer is in being able to actually "reach" people with the consequences before they do it. It's tough but definitely not impossible.
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Surferchickita

In reply to melia.pond

Haha aww well thanks for the parsnips ;) and hey, I was yummy, if that changes anything? :P
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Surferchickita

In reply to kitty

Ah kitty, that's sweet, thank you :)
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Surferchickita

In reply to GamerGirl

Yeo exactly! My conditions are affected by stress, one of the specific things that affect them.... They probably don't realise it. But they should realise it hurts people. Oh well, if they're gonna be horrible they're gonna be horrible, no one can stop them. I got you guys to make me feel better :)
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Surferchickita

In reply to *CybersmileTeam*

So true! As long as charities like cybersmile are here then more people will be educated on bullying and hat hopefully means more people will stop and think before they do or say something. That will mean less people go through what most of us have been through. Even if it doesn't stop people being horrible to me I will do all I can to help make sure people don't end up like me :)
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kitty

In reply to Surferchickita

No prob sis we all love you!!!! xxxx
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Jules92
Hi Surferchickita,
JoDragon is right, communication is really important and you need to let the staff know that other peoples stupid gossip is not what you actually think!! I am shocked that they are listening to gossip about you without talking to you about it. In fact, considering your condition, personally I think this is extremely unprofessional and possibly negligent. I hope you get it sorted out. xx
Originally posted by JoDragon
I'm sorry to hear this has happened to you :(

I kind of agree with dolphin about officials being involved but there would be little evidence that they were the cause of deterioration of your physical health.

I'm very surprised and upset that both your teachers and mum were assuming something over what other people said, and not gone by what you have said, after all it's your life and you know what you're doing and want!

I would have a talk with your mum when things have calmed down about the situation of these girls that are saying untrue things to get you into trouble and you really would like her support because in fact you don't want to leave college at all.

Communication is going to be key between you and both the staff and your mum. I appreciate it might not be easy but no is going to know you feel otherwise.

Don't forget you can email if you'd like some advice how to approach it.
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Petula
Stay strong Surfer, once your teachers and parents know the truth the bullies will be seen for exactly what they are, sad negative people! The truth always comes out!!! :))