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If you could convey one positive message to a bully what would it be?

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Reflective_Joy
Sometimes we may encounter online bullying that is very hard to shut off from. It could be that it's being perpetrated by someone from our school or workplace or someone who is part of an online community we are active in.

If you HAD to respond, what is one positive and potential helpful thing you could say to them?

Now, if you can't or choose not to respond (sometimes that is better) What positive message would you have liked to convey to them? Sometimes writing it down in a journal or as a letter ( that is never sent) can help with the anger and pain we feel after experiencing bullying. I know that has worked for me. Changing a negative experience into a positive, means that we have taken the power back from the person who is trying to bring us down.

It's pretty empowering!

What would you say to them if you could?
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David85
Wow! Thats a great question. I think I would like to say something like, "You are so unhappy and I can feel your pain. Whatever has made you so sad will never go away, no matter how many people you hurt so why not free yourself from this pain and learn how to accept and give love instead".
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Petula
Hurt people, hurt people. Break the chain and live again.
Brilliant post CanadianSW!
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Frank
I can think of lots of things to say but not many of them are positive. Even thinking about changing a negative into a positive has made me see how empowering this process is. Taking away the power of negativity by offering a positive "gift". I'm still struggling with this one and will have to get back to you. Thank you for a thought provoking thread!!
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GamerGirl
Welcome to the community Canadian_SW! What a great topic to raise : )
I'd probably say "Hey, you don't need to be like this. I'm not going to hurt you or make fun of you, I'm no threat"
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Reflective_Joy
Thanks for the "Positive" feedback everyone!
David85 - I really like what you said. It's really compassionate and definitely helps us to see the pain or self dislike many bullies may be struggling with.

Frank- I completely understand. Easier said then done. Like you said, even when we can't think of a positive to replace a negative, the actual act of thinking about It, can be empowering! It definitely helps us focus less on the anger.

GamerGirl- Thank you for the warm welcome! Looking forward to learning so much on here. :-)
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CybersmileTeam

In reply to *Reflective_Joy*

To reinforce what GamerGirl says, welcome to our community! Thanks for your input : )
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Reflective_Joy
Thank you!! :-)
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CybersmileTeam

In reply to *Reflective_Joy*

You've got a great perspective which is very valuable to us at Cybersmile and the users around the world. We all hope to see much more of your content on here.
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Reflective_Joy
That's very kind of you to say! I look forward to it!
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Lenka
The greatest courage is to be yourself. It means to be free, to be aware of their responsibility for themselves, to act according to his convictions, to stand up for his opinion while respecting the freedom of others.Courage is the ability to say "no" to resist it, what harms us, to express what we feel, be honest and open, express their feelings and emotions. The courage to live their lives according to their own free choice, regardless of the demands, pressures or expectations of the outside world.....
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Lenka
Courage is the ability to say "no" to resist it, what harms us, to express what we feel, be honest and open, express their feelings and emotions. The courage to live their lives according to their own free choice, regardless of the demands, pressures or expectations of the outside world