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Suruthi
Hai cybersmile,I am a school student...I have a friend named Divvya.Before this we were friends but now we fight.Its a long story...Its been 2 years we are separated...I just came here to ask a question that...what shall I do if my enemy asking everyone not to friend me?

Everyone is kinda not friending me......and I am feeling lonely.....
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Reflective_Joy
Hello Suruthi! Welcome to the forum. I am so sorry to hear you have had a falling out with your friend and that you are feeling lonely. The forum is public and a place to discuss broad issues around cyberbullying. But if you need one to one support please feel free to email Cybersmile directly for support 24/7 [email protected] :-)

We are really happy you can join us! Feel free to read through and contribute on the various topics in the forum or post your own!
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Marti
Breaking up friendships can be really hard, don't worry though, everything will work out for you. Feeling sad and lonely is only a feeling, it will pass and you will make new and better friends. Stay strong and stay positive!!
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heidilynnrussell
Hi Suruthi,
It's sad when people we trusted as good friends turn on us. And it's even sadder when they try to get other people to turn on us, too. I understand your sadness.
Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to stop this person from gossiping about you.
However, there is one thing YOU can do, and it's this:

Smile and laugh through it.

That's it.

If the person is spreading rumors that are false and that others are believing -- and you are innocent -- just keep being yourself! Focus on the things and people who make you happy. Direct your attention to those who will build you up and make you feel happy about your strengths and your goodness and your kindness.

And if anyone comes to you and says, "I heard this or that about you," just smile and say, "They picked a good subject to talk about, didn't they? What do you want to know? These things are false."

However, if you feed into the drama that this person is spreading by defending yourself or trying to pull attention away from her, you will only give her energy to keep going. She won't stop.

So just be happy. Hug the people who are important to you. Read a book you love most. Do a hobby that makes you smile. Write a note of thanks to a teacher or a grandparent who has made your day happier. When you focus your energy on other things and other people -- not on the gossips -- soon what they are saying or doing will not matter at all.

I understand the hurt and the sting from this type of betrayal. Hope this helps.

And like Reflective Joy said, make sure you email the team at Cybersmile for extra support! You found a great community here!

--Heidi
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Suruthi

In reply to Marti

Hello Marti...are you in the United States?
Can you be my friend please?
Can you always chat with me...?
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Marti
Hi Suruthi,
I am in the UK and happy to be your friend. If you want to chat about really personal stuff it is best to get in touch with the Cybersmile advisors at [email protected] as this is a public forum.
Happy to chat though.
Sounds like you are having a tough time with friends and relationships at school. Don't worry, we all go through it and I'm sure you will get past all this negativity and find true friends that make you feel good about yourself.
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Kezia_Chrestotesia
I think you have to become a laughful and cheerful person. Actually i'm a very shy and quiet person, but i trying to become a laughful person. So i can got many friends, and it works. I have many friends. you know what, when i was in junior high school i only have 1 friends. But then i change, well i admit that it really hard to change my personality. So, keep fighting