So my story is a little complicated, but I’ll try my best to describe it in a clear way.
I began an online friendship with someone about 18 months ago on twitter. First tweeting one another and then eventually leading to Direct Messages.
Things seemed good, fun, exciting. I hasn’t had a good friend like this to talk to for years. I’m a very closed off, extremely private person. I don’t talk much to anyone, but I do have a nice online following with a few people I know quite well. But none privately or personally.
Over the course of the last 6 months or so, my friendship with this person has become quite pressured. I feel very obligated to this person to the point of having to reply instantly, or else they become upset.
Lately this has intensified ten fold, it has now gotten to the point where the conversation lasts every second of every day. I find myself on my phone constantly in fear of disappointing them.
Now this is sounding like it’s my problem, which I used to think it was. However, this person has completely changed their behaviour, they are very angry at me almost daily, they put me down, point out my flaws, and constantly explains to me what I’m doing wrong and how I’m upsetting them. If I’ve taken 10 minutes to reply, I am asked why, where have I been? And then proceed to tell me how I’ve made them cry because they feel I’m ignoring them.
This has now gone beyond this, many many times now they have threaded to leave and never talk to me again. And then 10 minutes layer they’re back, but not to apologise, but to inform me they’ll give me one more chance.
I have attempted many times to explain how I feel, trapped, pressured, but they immediately turn it around and I end up apologising.
As I said, I am a very private person. And because this friendship become so strong, we shared many stories of sensitive subjects and things I wouldn’t normally tell anyone unless I fully trusted them, which originally I thought I did.
Now, aside from my main worry of how this is overtaking my entire life, constantly being on edge about how they will treat me from one day to the next. I am now worried that if I ever step out of line again, they may share these stories I’ve told them about my personal life publicaly.
Has anyone been on this situation before? Any advice?
This person is still special to me and all I want is for them to go back to how they were when we first met.
(I should add this isn’t a romantic relationship, never has been. Purely friendship.)