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Surferchickita
Hey everyone,

Firstly can I just say that again, sorry for having been away so long. Been busy with work, hoping to get on here a bit more now though. Hope you're all doing okay :)

I just wanted to make this post because it seems like the online environment is getting quite abusive. It seems like every other post or comment I read is someone abusing someone else. And I wondered if anyone could give me a little advic, because there have been a lot of posts and comments aimed at me, saying some pretty awful stuff, telling me to 'go die' or kill myself etc. and I don't really know what to do about it. It's getting me really really down and I know these people are probably right in everything they say. As much as I hate to believe they are right, I think they are; that doesn't make it any less hurtful though.

I've tried the whole reporting and blocking thing, never seems to work. They just make new accounts and continue. Does anyone have any ideas of what I can do?

Thanks everyone :)

Surf
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CybersmileTeam
Hey Surfer, sorry to hear about the bullying online. It's great that you've come here for help. You should get some great advice from lots of different people on here but remember our advisors are there for you if you need them. Just email [email protected] and someone will be in touch as soon as they are available. Try and keep positive and remember how many nice, caring people there are in the world too!
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Surferchickita
Thank you! Means a lot
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Jules92
Hey Surfer! Haven't seen you for ages. Great to see you back but not so great to hear the haters are getting you down. That's what they do, hate, hate, hate and more hate. Sort of not surprising it's getting you down! The only advice I can give, from my experience of dealing with dicks, is to keep on blocking etc or set up another profile/account. Manage it or chuck it away; its your choice, your life, your happiness and you're the one in control, not them!
Your such a cool person and a great contributor to cybersmile, you should not be made to feel like this by the morons, you are soooooo much better than them!!
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Alise231
Hi Surfer!

Unfortunately, in today's society, people think they're being funny when they're being rude and hateful, when obviously they're not. And, unfortunately, it's become the biggest trend to tear others down instead of building others up. But, like Jules92 said, you could keep blocking or set up another profile/account, what I would like to add to that is, that if you decide to make a new account set it to private if you can and, if it's a site where you add people (like facebook), only add people you trust. Also, you could ignore the post, or if you feel the need to reply (because sometimes there is that urge) reply with a positive note. Tell them that you hope their day is wonderful or something of the like. Always be kind, even when you think they don't deserve it.

The only advice I can give you to brighten your mood is to find inspiration. If you're on Pinterest follow tags such as "inspirational quotes" or "positive". Follow blogs that are aimed towards things you love and promote good vibes on Tumblr if you have an account with them. Watch people who support positivity on Youtube (such as Markiplier in the gaming community.) Read a book, then if you get inspired to write, then that's fantastic! The world can always use another book to breathe a little magic into it! Listen to positive music and don't be afraid to dance around with a hair brush in hand like it's a microphone. If you love to cook, act like your doing a cooking show and don't be afraid to act silly. Dance in the car, sing at the top of your lungs. Do the things that you know make you happy. Because it's in those little things that'll help brighten your mood. :)
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Surferchickita
Thanks jules wish I vould just forget about them and what they say. But part of my BPD is that I hear voices which just repeat thus stuff over and over so even if it were to stop the voices would just continue. It makes it hard to move on from it all, if that makes sense? Thanks for the advice, really really appreciate it. Hope youre okay 😊👍
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heidilynnrussell
Hey Surf, it's good to see you on here again.

The only thing about your post that alarms me is that you say, "I know these people are probably right in everything they say."

Here is the thing: Anyone who tells you to commit suicide is never "right." Anyone who would say that to another person needs to get their own head examined.

If you feel at all tempted to act on a suicide attempt, please immediately call a suicide hotline. I know we can't post the links here, but do a Google on it for your region of the world.

When we feel alone and isolated, that's usually when these negative suggestions may start to "make sense" to us. But that's when you are in the most danger of self-harm. So if you are feeling alone and do not have anyone to talk to, make sure you call a hotline.

Please promise you'll do that. You may not realize this, but you have your own special brand of light and love that you offer to the world. Don't let others push you into thinking that you should snuff that out. Keep your light burning brightly -- we need you, okay?

XO
Heidi
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Surferchickita
Just wanted to say thank you for all of your suggestions and support. Sorry if I disappear again. Really hard not to isolate myself atm, took me hours to manage to persuade myself to make this post if Im honest. Sorry guys.