1) Write it down!
Instead of replying to the Troll, bully or friend that is harassing or antagonizing you, write everything down that you would like to say to them IF you could. I would advise not using a Word document because you may get the urge to copy and paste it back to them. So to limit that, use a notebook or journal.
-You can write in the first person using "I" statements in point form and say why you are angry, hurt or frustrated. Go into as much detail as you need to.
-Address how you feel using the persons name or online username and tell them how they made you feel and why they should stop harassing, insulting, laughing at you etc.
**Remember we aren't actually sending this to them! If you really need to share it and need further support, you could always explain why you wrote this exercise and email the [email protected] team for further advice or a listening ear.
Now when you are done, it's important to shift your emotions because even when venting -especially when we are venting- we are still liable to feel sad,angry or hurt. So the next step is to follow up with a "Grateful List".
2) Grateful List
You should list a minimum of 5 things you are grateful for online. The people,the gaming communities you are a part of or your social media groups and friends. By listing all the things you DO appreciate about the online world you are creating a shift in your emotions. In fact I can GUARANTEE you'll notice a shift in how you feel! Moreover, it helps to remind you why you are part of an online community in the first place. Here are a few suggestions to get you started on your Grateful List. Remember to not just list the positives, but to say WHY you are grateful. Here are some examples:
- I really appreciate my Twitter discussions because they really uplift me, educate me and empower me.
- I am so grateful for my friends in my Minecraft circle because they really support and uplift me.They also give great suggestions and share tips.
- I am so grateful for my Snapchat friends because they never fail to make me laugh and smile when I really need it.
- I am so grateful for Cybersmile, because I know they are there 24/7 if I need to talk. I feel valued within the community and I know I am not alone.
These are just suggestions, so be creative and you may find the list is even longer then your list/letter to your online troll or bully! Please share your suggestions below of what you would add to either list. It could help others in the community who may be struggling.