I know I can't post a link here, but I wanted to make you guys aware of an article I stumbled into this past weekend by an educational association.
Basically, this article was advising teachers that if they had a bully in their classroom, to pay special attention to the bully and look for signs of abuse. The article went into some depth about how school bullies are the most vulnerable children and are suffering in some manner from neglect or abuse in their home environments -- more than any other children.
This broke my heart.
I was doing a search on the topic because my own child had an incident this past week with a boy who was his lab partner. While the teacher was paying attention in another corner of the classroom, this boy punched my child twice in the stomach. Needless to say, I was alarmed and highly upset. I found myself fighting intense anger at this other child and at his parents.
I did a web search about school bullies as a result (because that's what I do when I'm upset -- I seek out information about whatever is upsetting to me).
And that's when I found this article.
This allowed me to share with my own child that this lab partner is fighting his own battles and that we must feel sorry for him.
Thankfully, the school has been very responsive to my report on the incident. The teacher has given my child a new lab partner, and the principal and guidance counselor office has been made aware.
Which brings up ANOTHER point:
If you're the victim of a bully at school, PLEASE tell someone. Don't stay quiet about it. The teacher was unaware that my child had been punched until I emailed him. My child left the classroom without saying one word about it and came home very upset and unloaded on me.
So please (please!) speak up, because the only way adults can help you -- and also can help the bully if he or she is being hurt at home -- is for us to know about it.
Anyway, food for thought, and as always, thanks to Cybersmile for this wonderful forum.