Cybersmiler Ellie Lou shares her thoughts on anonymous hate
I just wanted to send a quick note to tell you a bit about my experience and personal fight with cyberbullying, and more precisely: anonymous hate.
As a few of you may know, Tumblr is a platform that allows people to ask anonymous questions and sometimes, people take that as an opportunity to hurt you, or at least to TRY to hurt you. They make comments about the content of your blog, about the way you look, the way you talk, the way you do literally ANYTHING. They. Will. Hate. It. And it’s just those very few people who can completely ruin your day and your experience online. So here’s my advice for anyone who has to deal with anonymous hate:
PLEASE remember that even your idols – the people you look up to and think are perfect in every single way (which they aren’t, by the way) – get hate online. Some of them actually get a LOT of hate. And that’s okay, because the better you get, the more things people have to be jealous of. But no matter how much hate they get, you’re still there to support them and you still believe in them, and you still think they’re perfect. Why? Because what others think of those people does not change the way YOU see them. And that applies to you too. The way people see you has no impact on who you are what so ever, and because someone isn’t happy with your behaviour does NOT mean you shouldn’t be.
Confidence is a right that you have, and so is happiness. So don’t even let people make you question your worth and wonder “Am I really allowed to do this or this or that?” Because yes. Yes, you are allowed to do whatever you please (unless you wanna kill people or something. Please don’t do that).
See yourself the way you see your idols. You fight for your idols, you defend them, you love them no matter what others think. Why shouldn’t do that for yourself?
I love and respect all of you, and I hope you’re all doing good. xx – Ellie Lou